Remember back when you were a teenager, fumbling around on your basement sofa or in the back seat of your car, just trying to figure out where everything was on a girl. You think you had the right spots or at least you hope you did, but you had no technique, no go-to moves; everything was so awkward.
Thank God that's over.
You've grown up, learned a few tricks, moved on from your parents’ house and bagged quite a few more girls. With that said though, has age and experience really clued you into what women want in bed? Sure, you know how to find the clit now and one time you gave that girl a g-spot orgasm, but let's be real, there's a lot more that women want than just touch. Read on to see what you've been doing right or wrong all these years.
Rabbit Sex
This is one of those moves that women hope most men grow out of, but some never do. You know, jack rabbit sex, where you pound the girl you're with as fast as possible? Yeah, stop doing that. There's a moment few and far between when that actually feels good, otherwise it's doing nothing for her. Do it if you don't want a girl to call you again. Also, be on the lookout for the glazed over look she's going to get... that's the "I've mentally checked out and started thinking about my to-do list."
No Way Foreplay
There is a time and a place when foreplay isn't important. It's usually during that quickie you're having in the coat closet at your neighbor's party. There's no time for oral when you could get caught at any moment, but if you're not dropping trou in public, you better believe you need to prime your girl up. Skipping foreplay makes you look selfish and completely amateur. If she's going down on you, you need to go down on her. Granted some girls aren't into it and if that's the case, then don't worry about it, but you should still be teasing her and playing with her so that she's ready for the main event.
Shutting down
Post sex glow, feelings and exhaustion are great, but women don't appreciate it when you roll over immediately afterwards and pass out. You don't have to do the whole feelings thing where you talk about the state of the relationship or even have to drop words of love, but at least give your girl an arm and a few moments to catch up. She'll feel used or rejected if you roll over right after you finished. This isn't just for random one night stands or friends with benefits. Girls you've been dating a long time will still wonder what's up if you mentally peace out afterwards, so throw your girl a bone and then at least a few minutes of snug time.
Lacking originality
Of course your main goal is to show your girl a good time. You wanna whip it out, wave it around and be all like, "look what I can do with this." But it's still not always easy, especially when 80% women reported that they do/have faked it. Frustrating, huh? You're thinking, why would you fake it when you could just actually have it? But the answer’s not always simple. She could be bored, tired, not into it, you could be bad at what you're doing, or it's just not going to happen that day. Because of this, you're going to want to keep her on her toes. Don't default to what you know every time and stick with the same routine. Be creative, whip out some dirty talk, some toys, a little role playing, and even a change of scenery.
Reign it in
Having a fetish, knowing what you like, etc. is great, but dropping strange requests on girls you've just started dating is not. While the above says you should keep her on her toes, you shouldn't just unload your weirdness in efforts to be creative right from the start. You might be into bondage, being called "daddy," golden showers even, but that doesn't mean you need to figure out if your homegirl is down the first few times you hook up. Don't "test" her by pushing her limits. Ditch the kink for a while and then warm her up to it by slowly introducing it. She might be gong-ho, or she might be totally turned off... either way, you can't force it or be disrespectful when she says no. Get the girl to invest in you before letting her into your little secret fetishes and she'll be more likely to participate.